New Year, who this?

“New Year, who this?” is going to be my version of “new phone.”  After reflecting on this horrible year and having my new planner, I kinda have a new outlook on things. It is my prerogative to want a better year for myself, no matter what. With that comes making clear-cut lines in the sand about who and what I want in my life. So as harsh as it may be if we didn’t speak or make an effort to see each other this year, we probably won’t in 2018.  Sorry, not sorry.

If you want my advice for a great planner, ANYTHING from Bando is incredible. I got mine a couple of weeks ago, and it was on sale. A double whammy of awesome for sure. They are super girly, and they are like me, old-fashioned. But I also do add reminders to my google calendar to make sure I get to places on time. Over the years I have purchased tons of stuff from them, (ex Christmass and Graduation gifts) so definitely a great place to check out for unique gifts. I guess it helps that I ran into their CEO while I was in LA this past spring. Not only is she super sweet, but also super down to earth.

On a positive note, great things are already in the works for 2018. Looks like I will be going back to school, after my year of hiatus. I am not looking forward to the couple hurdles I need to pass, but in the end, it would be totally worth it. Especially that McCombs degree on the wall. So who can teach me Calculous and Eco?? On top of this,  Looks like there may also be a love interest in the horizon. This time im taking it super slow and trying to not catch feelings. Haha, hopefully, those are not the famous last words. All I will say is that there is an age gap, but things to be running smooth. So here is to hoping for good things to come.

XOXO

Ana

Reflection

After my lousy thanksgiving continued to ruin last week for me, I spent a lot of time reflecting on the awful year this has been. I know I’m not the only one in these shoes, but this is my soapbox, and I will stand on it. With Christmas being around the corner and the end of this shitty year, I am totally over it and looking forward to the fresh chapter the new year brings. Well, LET’S RECAP!

Well, it all started with my English-ex canceling holiday plans with me, I was going to jump the pond for my birthday. To then who I thought was basically my sister entirely betraying me and lying to me. She had been lying to so many for so long that it was a matter of time before I was the next target. Taking a step back, all the red lights were there. That followed with being unemployed for four months, and when you are a single mom – that was the worst thing. It literally started a horrible financial domino effect for me. Lets not even get into all of my health problems and inability to take care of them. Mind you I haven’t yet gotten into all the heartbreak I’ve had this year.

From that, I have learned not to date anyone if their name is A****w, R****t, or J****n. Lord and probably not an Aquarius or Sagittarius, need to formulate a repellant for those, like whats your name and when is your birthday formulary. I have most certainly walked away from a lot, pat myself on the back for that. I have also learned about people that I used to call my ‘friend.’ That is such a loose term nowadays, think about it. Who are your IRL friends? If you needed to be bailed out of jail who would come save you? And who would just gossip about it? I am pretty confident that the original number you thought of, would condense only the amount of fingers both of your hands or less.

I am however very thankful for my parents, who have saved me more than once this year. For the friendships I do have, new or old, you know who you are, and you are terrific, and I love you, thank you for being in my corner when I needed you the most. Most of all, even though yes I am still single, I am thankful for the men that roll thru. You have at least taught/showed me something about myself that I didn’t know before. If I didn’t learn from it, what good was it?

XOXO

Ana

Cuffing Season… UGH!!!

Well, foks is that time of year again, cuffing season, aka Single Awareness. You that time of year when it seems everyone and their mom gets a boyfriend. The weather gets cooler and the sun goes down earlier. It is also the time of year that makes feel even more single. Thank you to the art of social media, and everyone posting about their new man, ring and since I’m old AF – their newborns. Don’t get me wrong, I love babies – just the influx makes my uterus cry. All of this, of course, is even more apparent after the last series of letdowns. Go figure.

October was pretty great for the most part. If you know me you know how much I like baseball, and October is prime time for it. Even more exciting was finding someone who enjoyed it as much as I do. And I don’t know if I say this enough here, but my “teams” are from another state, I literally live in the wrong state. He loved the Patriots as much as I do, so the two hour long conversations on the phone were an easy thing to do. So being able to have a date night and watch baseball playoffs was amazing.  But again my horrible luck will have it that I would be the one losing this game, at least the Astros were able to bring home the World Series.

The dating game is absolutely killing me. Meeting men that are not emotionally available, who really don’t want to meet you or don’t know what they really want, is draining me to the core. It is literally exhausting. Signing up for match.com was probably the worst thing I have ever done. It has brought me so much stress and grief that I’m really thinking about canceling and hoping I get some money back. I don’t think I will ever understand why they are even on there. For now, I think I’m going to have to take a serious break from all of this BS. I need to spend my time doing constructive things, than wasting time on people who genuinely don’t care about me and my needs. Here is to starting my NYE resolutions early, and I am most def going to be proactive at this. Me time here we go!

XOXO

Ana